Why your environment dictates your success

It‘s easy to think of success as a result of plain old hustle, late nights, and some no-nonsense willpower. If we work harder, think more positively, get up earlier, we‘re told, nothing is impossible. But behind the scenes, a silent, invisible force our environment is constantly influencing our thoughts, behaviors, and eventually, our fate.

Whether you are aware of this fact or not, everything we are exposed to provides a subconscious template for our lives. Things we are exposed to directly, such as the people we interact with, to those we merely observe through scrolling screens and the objects (including the configuration of our homes) that are around us.
The Subtle Power of the Invisible Script
Visualize your mind as a fertile garden. Your willpower and purpose are the seed, but your surroundings are the soil, the sunlight and the rain. You can plant the most noble seed of purpose a longing to create a life of growth and meaning but if you put it in dry, polluted ground, it won‘t thrive.

Our environment writes an unwritten script for us. It informs us of the limits, what is suitable and what can be achieved. If you‘re surrounded by negativity, dysfunction and a culture of blaming, your mind makes a natural transition to the defense system. Gradually you perceive the world through that world of limitation.

On the other hand, a success-oriented environment of growth, responsibility, and camaraderie provides a natural acceleration. The more your everyday environment resembles the person you want to become, the less success becomes a difficult scramble uphill against your environment, and the more it becomes the natural path of least resistance.
The Social Circle: Your Emotional and Mental Thermostat
Again, on our deepest level of existence, we are created to be relational beings, born to be overcomers of the idiosyncrasies of our tribe. Sociologists relate this to “social contagion,” the way in which societies and ideas tend to travel rapidly through a network.

If your “inner circle” are people who are working on self-improvement, gratitude and owning their mistakes you will naturally reflect those attributes. You wont have to try and think bigger, their energy in the circle will lift you up when you need it. They will raise your “emotional and intellectual thermostat”.

However, if everyone else in your life is neighbors and co-workers who are lazy, judgmental, and entrenched in victimhood, they will be a drag anchor on your social well-being. Constructing a civic-minded mind-set is bloody hard when you continually surround yourself with anti-voice. Be conscious of who you allow to have a front row seat in your life.
Spatial Psychology: How Your Physical Workspace Shapes Your Focus
Don‘t write off the clutter as a distraction  itself. Cognitive psychologists have been aware for decades that the environment we surround ourselves with affects our thinking. An untidy, chaotic room, signals stress to the brain in the form of chronic distraction. It is visual noise, which pulls at your focus and drains mental energy leading to inaction.

Creating a physical state for success doesn‘t involve a luxurious space, it involves the correct space. A clean desk. A spare corner. An area filled with daylight. Just that and your body‘s nervous system changes. When your body is in the correct state, the mind stays in state to learn, create and think on a deeper level. You shift into proactive creation from reactive stress.
Cultivating a Digital Environment that Feeds Your Growth
Today the world we live in is not just physical. Hours each day we ‘live’ in the cyber space. The algorithms used by social media are engineered in such a way that they hit you where it counts-you emotional side. It makes you feel either constantly comparing or insignificant or simply drowned in a lot of ‘noise.’

If you‘re consuming a surfeit of mindless celebrity gossip, lazy numerics, and nonstop negative news cycles then you are depleting your own mental bandwidth. Tell me, how are you going to produce quality content, thrive as a family, or help communities if your mind‘s been constantly snacking on digital junk food?

Apply as strict a puritanical eye to your digital diet as you do to your physical one. Hit ‘unfollow’ on the accounts that make you feel insignificant or worried. Seek out feeds that teach you something, make you smile and help you be a better person. Use your phone as a tool for self-improvement rather than self-destructivenes.
Designing Your Environment for Effortless Success.
If you want to change your life, stop using will power. Will power is finite--it runs out as the day progresses. Use your energies on environmental design instead making bad behaviors impossible and good behaviors frictionless.

To develop mindfulness: Develop a space at home that is completely screen free and that is designated simply as quiet reflection or reading space.

To nurture good family virtues: Create living environments to stimulate communication through direct conversation instead of surrounding your every room with a television screen.

How to develop a growth mindset: Consume books, audios, mentors yes, even virtual mentors that constantly remind you that you are powerful and accountable to the community.

You create your environment. Think about how much more empowering it is to actively select who you walk with, to control the environments you come into, and to screen your information sources. All of this is the foundation for guaranteed success and social prosperity. Stop fighting the world shape it into one that propels you.

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Getting Over the Fear of Judgment

 Day 5: Your Audience in Your Head Getting Over the Fear of Judgment

We‘ve all experienced this. You‘re on the verge of uploading that radical new design, applying for the most spectacular job, or simply sporting an ensemble a little “over the top” for your small hometown when, all of sudden, you hear a ghostly jury summoned in the back of your mind.

The jury isn‘t strangers. It’s your snooty cousin who always has a sarcastic comment to make, your college roommate who is convinced she has life all figured out, and your parents who seem to be wearing a heavy wool coat on the hottest day of summer.

Now our quest to self-actualize us, and we are confronting the heaviest anchor of all: The Fear of Judgment.

The Biology of Belonging

First, be humane with yourself. If your mouth feels dry or you experience a lump in your throat when contemplating your classmates’ opinions, you are not “weak”, you’re just human.

From an evolutionary perspective, “judged” and expelled from the tribe was a death sentence. We are wired for Groupness because 10,000 years ago, the lone wolf didn‘t (just) get lonely the lone wolf didn‘t make it through the winter.

However, this is today‘s world: Your existence doesn‘t depend on your aunt‘s valuation of your decisions any more. In a networked world, where we live with caveman minds “judged” by lot dozens of individuals before your cappuccino is born you must, yes, cut through your hardware.

1. The Spotlight Effect: You Aren‘t the Main Character (to them)

Psychologists call “Spotlight Effect” the tendency to think others are paying more attention to our actions or appearance than they actually are.

The Truth: People are way too busy worrying about their own insecurities, their own growing bills, and their own “phantom juries” to give more than a passing glance at yours.

When you think “If my business fails, they will think I‘m a loser.” What actually happens? Most people will look at your update, think “Huh. Neat.” and then go right back to looking for a piece of spinach in their smile. You are the star of your story, but in everyone else‘s you‘re just an extra. There is a huge, shimmering liberator in that.

2. Identifying the “Inner Critic” vs. “Outer Voices”

Sometimes we project our doubt to everyone and forget that there‘s really no reader. Sorry. When it is the reader, we project it to our family. Every family member must have his or her own subverter.

Projection: “If I leave this high paying job my father will think I’m a failure” (p. 117).

Reality: you are ashamed of your desire to take things more slowlyand this internalized notion of your dad‘s hypothetical voice is the source of your self-flaggelation.

Before you allow yourself to spiral, ask yourself: Has this person really said this to me? Or, am I just pre-emptively defending myself against a ghost? If they haven‘t spoken it, drop it. If they have spoken it, go to the next point.

3. The “Opinion Tax”

Imagine The Box is like a tax you pay for delving into anything interesting. If you only do what is expected and stay in your lane and never make trouble, you‘ll only have an “Opinion Tax” to live with. But you‘re living someone else‘s life.

But if you choose to be authentic, the tax increases. Some may fail to understand, some will hate what you do.

The Strategy: Determine whose opinions have become the “currency” you now pay for every response you send out.

Eventually, ask yourself 

Do they begin with compassion and development?

Will they ever really understand my heart?

If the answer is “no,” then the answer is what we‘d call a “mirror image” “counterfeit currency.” Don‘t let it purchase space in your mind.

4. Reframe Judgment as a Compass

The irony is that what you fear on judgment day is probably pointing you straight at what you need to do. We are judgment-free about the things that aren‘t that important to us. You don‘t care if people judge your choice of toothpaste. You care if they judge your poetry, your parents, your new career.

That fear is a cue that you are in touch with something small and tender. Rather than interpreting the fear as a stop sign, interpret it as a you-are-here marker on the map of your development.

5. Practical Steps for the Next 24 Hours

In order to break the spell of judgment, you have to do “micro-risks.” You can‘t think our way out of this; you need to act our way out of this.

The “So What?” Drill: If your friends grade you, what‘s the real outcome? Will your car break down? Will the sun take a day off? More times than not the “worst-case-scenario” is a few uncomfortable seconds.

Limit the committee: You are not obligated to give everyone a front row seat to your process. It is fine to place family members on an “information diet” while you are building a new and delicate creation.

Own the Narrative. When you are talking about your choices assertively you provide fewer opportunities for others to dump their doubt into your story. Rather than making reassuring comments like “I‘m trying this little thing I hope its not stupid,” make statements like “I‘m really excited to be focused on [X] right now because its congruent with my values.”

The Final Word

When your time comes, you won‘t be serenaded out of this life with the award of “Most Consistently Respected by Classmates.” Nor will you be given an Award of “Dad Never Had To Talk to my Teacher.”

The only thing that will count is if you showed up as yourself. The ones who sincerely love you will learn to love you in your new form and the ones who don‘t, never truly loved you. They loved the part of you that they felt comfortable with.

Now, for a moment, do one tiny thing the “phantom jury” would disapprove of. Smite your imagination with one sting of their “judgment”, and then remember...you are still alive.

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The Power of Micro-Habits The 1% Changes that Make 100% Impact

Like most of us, personal development is like a home makeover show. We want the dramatic ‘before and after’ in 42 minutes (without the commercial breaks). We declare ‘Big Hairy Audacious Goals’ to lose 30 pounds, to write a novel.
What if I told you that the key to turning your life around in a big way isn’t a big effort? It’s far more diminutive. It’s about 1% diminutive.
Today we will be exploring micro-habits and the reason being the small changes in your routine are some of your most powerful weapon.
The Math of Compounding Improvement.
In his book Atomic Habits, James Clear has made famous a mathematical idea that is so simple and yet so staggering that it is hard to believe. If you improve by 1% every day for a year, then you will not simply be 3.65 times better in a year. Because of the effect of compounding, you‘ll actually be 37 times better.
But if you go 1% worse every day you nearly go down to zero.
“The habits are the compound con of sm by.”
You focus on the micro-habit, not the ‘win’ today. The vote for the type of person you wish to become. one push-up won‘t unlock the abs you never had, but one push-up will put you in the category of people who don‘t forget their daily workout.
Why “small” is “better” than “important”.
We don‘t always achieve our goals because of something known as Cognitive Load. If you make too many changes at the same time, you‘ll find your brain responds by seeing it as a threat, and the next thing you know we‘re in the amygdala (fear part of our brain) and back in the comfort of familiar old (even if bad) habits.
Micro-habits avoid this “fear alarm” they are too tiny to fail.
The Goal: Mediate 30 minutes. (Very difficult to keep momentum, as it was hard to fit into daily schedule).
The Micro-Habit: inhale deeply when you sit at your desk. (Zero friction, can not lose).
Shrink that habit away and you take motivation right out of it. Motivation is a fickle mistress she leaves when you‘re tired, stressed, or hungry. Micro-habits depend on consistency the only true requirement of neuroplasticity.
The brain’s ability to rewire itself.
Overcoming the “Results” Trap.
The most challenging aspect of micro-habits isn‘t implementation the lag between action and achievement is the killer. That‘s what the authors refers to as the “Plateau of Latent Potential.”
Suppose we have an ice-cube in a room at -5 degree C. We warm the room in 1 degree C steps,...-4, -3, -2, -1 does nothing, the ice cube is still there. Then, we reach 0 degree C (32 degreeF), and suddenly the ice starts to melt.
Was it the one degree jump from -1 to 0? No. It was the entire energy of all the previous steps.
When you launch a micro-habit, the initial few weeks, the results are going to be close to zero. It‘s the Danger Zone, where most people give up. But if you follow the system, you are not “waiting” for results, you are creating the foundations for the results to come.
How to Start Today
In order to take advantage of the 1% principle, don‘t select 5 different products. Select a single one.
Find your “Ridiculously Small” action. For example, if that‘s a plan to drink more water, your micro-habit would be drinking one sip as soon as you wake up.
Anchor it. Locate an existing routine you already have (for example, pouring coffee or looking at your phone) and “stack” whatever new habit you want to develop.
Track your streak, not your results. Use a basic calendar. Your sole responsibility, not to “break the chain.”
Sorry about that. Not a big deal if you skip a day. The principle is: No gaps. Missed once is unintentional; missed twice is a new habit.
Final Thoughts
We dwell in a society, addicted to “hacks” and “overnight success.” But the world’ greatest Olympic performers, CEOs know that perfection can only happen in slow-mo.
This isn‘t about reinventing your life, just getting a tiny little bit better than the version of yourself that woke up yesterday.
What is your 1% for today?
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The “Why” behind your goals

 The “Why” behind your goals, defining your own family and social purpose.

We live in a culture that is so fixated on the“how.” Ourbookshelves are burdened by books on productivity, “life hacks,” and getting up at 5:00 in the morning. We are masters at goal setting we master the corporate ladder, a certain dollar amount in our bank accounts, or a specific body shape. And we often reach the top only to discover the air is thin and the view rather empty.

The one thing you are missing is almost never effort, it‘s purpose. It‘s the “Why” of your family and community. When you confuse having goals with having meaningful goals, they are simply tasks. When you realize that your goals are all underpinned by your roles as:

a family member, and.

a citizen of the planet.

Architecture of the ‘Why'.

To see how crucial purpose is, we need to examine the levels of motivation. Goals that are superficial tend to be outer-directed, as in “I want a promotion because it pays more.” Even though they‘re straightforward and motivators are fragile. They explode under the strain of exhaustion or a setback.

A Family and Social Purpose are the reasons, you get up after a failure not for yourself, but for the community you serve. To identify your “Why,” look beyond what you want to get and examine what you want to give:

Part I: Defining Your Family Purpose

For most people, a family is a fixed thing the people you live with or are born into. But for an intentionally-driven family, it functions much like a high-performance team or a small soulful organization. An unfocused family can feel like ‘logistical survival’, getting through the school schedules, the shopping and Saturday chores.

1. The Family Mission Statement

Picture your family as a boat. Where will it sail? Even in seemingly unrelated areas, a family purpose can serve as a filter and direct you toward the best choice. For example, if your family purpose is to promote curiosity and global consciousness, then a higher-paying job that demands your absence throughout the year might be a “no”.

2. Shifting from Success to Significance

In a home, the secret aspiration is, “success” (good grades, high standing jobs). When a family has a purpose the goal is changed to, “significance.” Response to the question, “How did you do on that test?” might be, “I made someone‘s life a little better today.” This small change in question puts the family on a platform of contribution.

3. Resilience Through Belonging

When child‘s or spouse‘s identity in a mission-oriented group with a specific function is known, one‘s strength of mind rises. It‘s not merely oneself who is doing hard things, but his family “does hard things” “cherishes kindness above all. ”

Part II: Defining Your Social Purpose

If the family is the internal foundation, then social purpose is the external bridge. We are social beings, but modern life appears to have shifted to the far end of the spectrum toward one extreme- hyper-individualism, arguably the key underlying cause of the ongoing epidemic of loneliness.

1. Finding Your “Social Burden”

Your raison social is always overshadowed by your guilty conscience. What infuriates you in the read of the daily papers? What local problem ends up getting you annoyed the most? This is most likely your “social burden”.

 Defining your social purpose is not prescriptive you don‘t have to leave your job to work for a nonprofit. It is about fitting a particular contribution into your life, It might be:

*The Connector: No one in your professional network should experience loneliness.

*The Mentor your task is to help fill the gap for those who follow behind you.

2. The Power of “Third Places”

“Third places” are the second environments (after your home and your work) where social purpose over-delivers. It could be a community garden, a faith community or your local patch board, in third places your social purpose is exercised. It is almost like you now have a new “Why” in these places, your objectives now are about the health of your community, which feeds your own security and meaning.

Finding your purpose is a process of discovery, not invention.

Conclusion: The Quiet Reward

Knowing your Why to your goals won‘t make life easier (it may even make it harder because you‘ll expect more of yourself). Yet this doesn‘t make life any less fascinating. With a sense of family and social purpose you can avoid aimless wandering because you‘re now a designer of meaningful life; you understand that your goals are not about the trophies you collect but rather about the quality of a tribe you assemble and society you leave in your wake. And, ultimately, we are not remembered for our trophies but for living out our Why.

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Motivation is a Myth: Why Discipline is Your Best Friend

 

you wake up at 6 am full of energy and ready to take on the world. Work out, work your inbox, eat a salad and whisper to yourself ‘This is who I am from now on. Until Tuesday, when it rains, you haven‘t had any sleep and where is that new you? you are waiting for that flash of inspiration to JERK yourself up.

But here is the hard hitting truth: Motivation is an inconsistent companion. If you actually want to meet your goals you need to stop chasing a feeling and start building a system. You need discipline.

The Great Motivation Deception.

Motivation is an emotional state. Like happiness, anger, or excitement, it is provisional. It’s driven by dopamine, and your brain is biologically programmed to seek the path of least resistance once that chemical spike fades.

Why Motivation Fails You:

It’s conditional: It requires you to "feel like it" to take action.

It’s finite: You can’t conjure it out of thin air when life gets stressful.

It’s a reaction: Usually, motivation follows a spark (a video, a speech, a New Year’s resolution), but sparks die out.

The steady motivation is the spark, discipline is the engine. Discipline doesn‘t care how you feel. It is the ability to execute a decision long after the motivation to do so has gone away.

What does it take to “build the discipline muscle.

Discipline is not achieved in a single day. It is a process of reducing the difference between intention and action.

1. Forget the Goal, Build the System

None of your attention should be on “losing 20 pounds.” Instead direct all your attention on the system of “walking for 30 minutes at 5:00.” Systems eliminate decision-making. When it reaches 5:00, you don‘t wonder if you‘ve got the motivation you just put on your shoes.

2. The “Five-Minute Rule”

Discipline often does not take place because the task is too big. Say to yourself you will just do the task for five minutes. Often the most difficult part of discipline is starting. Once you start, the friction is gone.

3. Embrace the Boredom

Professionalism is doing the work even when it gets boring. Motivation looks for new opportunities. Discipline not only finds them but develops them. All success is a trail of dull but rhythmical daily routines stretched out over time.

The Motivation Paradox.

It’s a bit of a “brain glitch,” but the simplest way to say it is:

Don‘t wait to feel like doing it. Do it, and you will feel like doing it.

Most people think it works like this:

Be inspired and make a move.

But in reality, it often works backward:

This can be as simple as taking action, even if it is just a tiny bit.

Be motivated by being able to see progress.

Do change more.

In fact, it‘s not a question of how the “spark” would be provided by the movement, but rather it‘s the movement who would be provided by the “spark”.

Consuming discipline to complete a task that you never wanted to do creates an endorphin in your brain called a feeling of accomplishment. That is what we refer to as motivation. Using discipline to actually begin results in feeling extremely motivated to carry through.

“Action is not only the effect of motivation but also the cause of it.”

Final Thought.

Stop waiting for the “right time” or the “perfect mood”. Those are specters. Instead, construct a timetable, establish your non-negotiable and turn up when you‘d rather stay under the covers.

Motivation will get you to the starting line, discipline will bring you across the finish line.

Discipline is not achieved in a single day. It is a process of reducing the difference between intention and action.

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How to make"ONE DAY" your "DAY ONE"

  Myth of “Someday”: Today is the Only Day that Counts.

We all have a “Someday” list. It‘s that invisible scroll of habits, dreams and changes we promise ourselves we‘ll action once the stars seem to align.

“So I will begin that YouTube channel one day.”

Some day I will take care of my mental health.

“I‘ll one day be able to use fluent English.”

However, here is the hardest thing to accept, “One Day” is not a day of the week. It is a state of mind a stay away place a room for us to sit comfortably while we wait for the actual start. As you embark on the journey of self-improvement and social development, the greatest transformation will be to replace the concept of “One Day” with the fact of “Day One”.

1. The Psychology of Procrastination

Why do we put our best intentions into the undefined future? Mostly because we are not lazy, we are afraid.

Every time we say ‘Someday’ we‘re protecting ourselves from failure. If we don‘t do it today, then we can‘t fail today. We remain huddled inside the cocoon of ‘potential.’ But the price we pay for ‘potential‘is chronic dissatisfaction. Waiting for the ‘perfect time‘is perfectionism, and perfectionism paralyzes us. In the meantime, perfection kills momentum, and if you‘re in charge of a household, a family, or a digital brand, then the most successful people aren‘t the ones who waited for the ‘right time, they‘re the ones who finally realize that the ‘right time‘is an illusion.

2. Why Today is Objectively Better

There are three scientific and emotional reasons why “Today” holds more power than any future date:

A. The Power of Immediate Agency

The second you do something your brain switches from passive to active. Now dopamine is released, the “reward” chemical, and momentum begins. When you wait for “Someday” to happen you stay in a state of mental “open loops” enclosures that drain your energy and feed your anxiety.

B. The Compound Effect

There are no giant steps in success. Success is a bunch of tiny, dull, daily repetitions.

You‘ve only got today to begin, you have 24 hours of momentum that “One Day” will not have. If you wait one month, you‘ve lost 30 days of compounding growth.1 If you wait for a year, the difference is an ocean.2

C. The Reality of “Now”

We forget that the future is just a series of “Nows”. If you haven‘t adopted the discipline to act today, why do you think you‘ll have that discipline six months from now? The “future you” is the realization of the “current you”.

3. The “Civic Sense” of Self-Growth

As a community we often discuss social wellbeing. But social wellbeing begins with individual responsibility. If we fail to take responsibility for our on..

3. The “Civic Sense” of Self-Growth

As a community we talk about social wellbeing. But social wellbeing begins with personal responsibility. When we begin to get out of our own way, we become better neighbors, better parents, and better citizens.

A “Day One” attitude is about owning it. It‘s about knowing that your life and the contribution you make to the world will be decided in the next sixty minutes, not the next sixty days.

4. How to Transition from “One Day” to “Day One”

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by a big goal, use these three strategies to start today:

The Two-Minute Rule: If you know you are going to do something in two minutes or less (such as outlining a blog post or recording a fifteen second clip), then do it now!

Break the Bar: Avoid setting the bar at perfection. Make your “good enough to launch”. If first video‘s not your best one and that‘s okay. Here you have to be “bad” before you can be “good”.

Audit Your “Some days”: List three things you want to postpone. Select the least manageable of the bunch, and undertake one percent of it today before sunset.

5. Embracing the Messy Start

And to my fellow voices and writers, the world does not need more “perfect” people. It needs more brave people the ones who show up even when their hair isn‘t perfect. Even when they are exhausted and trip over a word in English.

Your “Day One” will be messy. It will be loud. It will be imperfect. But it will be real. And a real, messy beginning is worth infinitely more than a perfect, imaginary “Someday.”

What is that ONE thing you have been waiting to do “Someday” that you could do a teeny weeny step toward TODAY? Lets encourage each other by holding ourselves accountable in the comments below.

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Consistency is the key

 The Power of Consistency is Compound, Or Why Just Showing Up is a Superpower.

But we‘re a society of hacks and viral moments. We‘re addicted to the big leap. We chase the magic bullet, the business that takes off overnight, the instant mastery of a foreign language. But life‘s best accomplishments are almost never born of a single, heroic gesture. They‘re born of the humble, sometimes boring, and doggedly consistent grinding and repetition.

Consistency is the space between the dream and the reality. It‘s doing something when the initial energy boost has left. Motivation is an emotion it is fleeting, emotional, and volatile. Motivation hits you hard when you purchase that gym membership or write that first blog. Then, it abandons you when you‘re exhausted, distracted, and out of steam. Motivation is a feeling. Consistency is a choice.

The Math of Success

Where the magic of consistency takes place is called the Compound Effect. If you enhance a skill a tiny 1 percent each day, at the end of a week it doesn‘t add up to much. At the end of a month you‘ll see a slight change. By the end of a year, you‘ll be a whopping 37 times better than you were at the beginning, not merely 365% better.

On the other hand, the “intensity” method, like working 18 hours a day for one day and then not doing anything for two weeks, will get you to burnout and stasis. Nature doesn‘t do intensity. Forests don‘t grow in one day. Rivers don‘t carve out canyons.

The Psychological Barrier

The reason for this is something experts refer to as The Plateau of Latent Potential. It‘s that phase when you‘re doing all the right things but not seeing any results. This is when most people give up because they believe they‘re failing, since nothing‘s changing on their balance sheet, waistline or social media subscribers.

In truth, that work is building up; the energy is building up. It‘s like melting an ice cube, going from 25 C to 31 C, nothing seems to happen. The work that you‘re doing in the “still” periods is what causes the “breakthrough”.

How to Build the Consistency Muscle

To be consistent, you need to decrease the friction to entry. If you want to be a writer, commit to writing 50 words a day, not 2,000. Make it “too small to fail.” You don‘t need motivation to start if it‘s simple enough to be completed. Each time you complete one, it becomes another step that repaves the neurological path, changing your belief about who you are. You‘re no longer someone who‘s “trying to be a writer”, but you are a writer.

Consistency comes down to trust. Trusting the process. But most importantly, trusting yourself. Every time you turn up when you say you would, you‘re voting for the person you want to be.

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