The “Why” behind your goals

 The “Why” behind your goals, defining your own family and social purpose.

We live in a culture that is so fixated on the“how.” Ourbookshelves are burdened by books on productivity, “life hacks,” and getting up at 5:00 in the morning. We are masters at goal setting we master the corporate ladder, a certain dollar amount in our bank accounts, or a specific body shape. And we often reach the top only to discover the air is thin and the view rather empty.

The one thing you are missing is almost never effort, it‘s purpose. It‘s the “Why” of your family and community. When you confuse having goals with having meaningful goals, they are simply tasks. When you realize that your goals are all underpinned by your roles as:

a family member, and.

a citizen of the planet.

Architecture of the ‘Why'.

To see how crucial purpose is, we need to examine the levels of motivation. Goals that are superficial tend to be outer-directed, as in “I want a promotion because it pays more.” Even though they‘re straightforward and motivators are fragile. They explode under the strain of exhaustion or a setback.

A Family and Social Purpose are the reasons, you get up after a failure not for yourself, but for the community you serve. To identify your “Why,” look beyond what you want to get and examine what you want to give:

Part I: Defining Your Family Purpose

For most people, a family is a fixed thing the people you live with or are born into. But for an intentionally-driven family, it functions much like a high-performance team or a small soulful organization. An unfocused family can feel like ‘logistical survival’, getting through the school schedules, the shopping and Saturday chores.

1. The Family Mission Statement

Picture your family as a boat. Where will it sail? Even in seemingly unrelated areas, a family purpose can serve as a filter and direct you toward the best choice. For example, if your family purpose is to promote curiosity and global consciousness, then a higher-paying job that demands your absence throughout the year might be a “no”.

2. Shifting from Success to Significance

In a home, the secret aspiration is, “success” (good grades, high standing jobs). When a family has a purpose the goal is changed to, “significance.” Response to the question, “How did you do on that test?” might be, “I made someone‘s life a little better today.” This small change in question puts the family on a platform of contribution.

3. Resilience Through Belonging

When child‘s or spouse‘s identity in a mission-oriented group with a specific function is known, one‘s strength of mind rises. It‘s not merely oneself who is doing hard things, but his family “does hard things” “cherishes kindness above all. ”

Part II: Defining Your Social Purpose

If the family is the internal foundation, then social purpose is the external bridge. We are social beings, but modern life appears to have shifted to the far end of the spectrum toward one extreme- hyper-individualism, arguably the key underlying cause of the ongoing epidemic of loneliness.

1. Finding Your “Social Burden”

Your raison social is always overshadowed by your guilty conscience. What infuriates you in the read of the daily papers? What local problem ends up getting you annoyed the most? This is most likely your “social burden”.

 Defining your social purpose is not prescriptive you don‘t have to leave your job to work for a nonprofit. It is about fitting a particular contribution into your life, It might be:

*The Connector: No one in your professional network should experience loneliness.

*The Mentor your task is to help fill the gap for those who follow behind you.

2. The Power of “Third Places”

“Third places” are the second environments (after your home and your work) where social purpose over-delivers. It could be a community garden, a faith community or your local patch board, in third places your social purpose is exercised. It is almost like you now have a new “Why” in these places, your objectives now are about the health of your community, which feeds your own security and meaning.

Finding your purpose is a process of discovery, not invention.

Conclusion: The Quiet Reward

Knowing your Why to your goals won‘t make life easier (it may even make it harder because you‘ll expect more of yourself). Yet this doesn‘t make life any less fascinating. With a sense of family and social purpose you can avoid aimless wandering because you‘re now a designer of meaningful life; you understand that your goals are not about the trophies you collect but rather about the quality of a tribe you assemble and society you leave in your wake. And, ultimately, we are not remembered for our trophies but for living out our Why.

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