How small acts of civic kindness can lift your spirits

How small acts of civic kindness can lift your spirits

We‘ve all experienced this. Running late for that first cup of morning java, your mind is a swarm of unclear emails and overwhelming commitments and the whole world is just a little off and a little too loud and a little too brisk and completely apathetic. When suddenly, someone kindly opens a door for you with a real, sincere, warm smile. Or lets you go first in line since the most you are holding is one banana. Once more, the static inside begins to settle. Suddenly, the sands are lifting. The day feels a fraction lighter. Most commonly, we think about civic sense as a strict series of cold social rules paying taxes in time, separating your garbage, being 5 km/h under the speed limit. Those are all important, of course, but true civic sense is more fluid. It is the social cement that holds societies together, and manifests itself most clearly in tiny gestures of generosity. Here‘s the best-kept secret about this civic kindness: it‘s good for your neighborhood yes. But it‘s also a biological and psychological superpower for your own mental health. The Science Behind the “Helper’s High” When you do something nice for someone you don‘t know maybe help carry their dropped grocery bag to the car, or kick a piece of litter out of the way on a path the brain doesn‘t simply note the accomplishment. Psychologists refer to this as the “Helper‘s High.” The brain floods the brain with the following happiness chemicals: Oxytocin: Known as the “love hormone”, oxytocin helps to decrease blood pressure, help your heart, and boost trust and sociability. Dopamine: Dopamine is your brain‘s reward system. When you‘ve just done something good it causes a spike of dopamine that instantly makes you feel good about yourself and excited about the future. Serotonin: One of the most important hormones in your body; this chemical controls your mood, reducing anxiety and preventing depression. In a culture where we shell out hundreds of dollars on wellness apps, gym memberships and green juices, we neglect the most powerful yet entirely free mental health hack at our disposal: neighborliness. Micro-Civic Acts: Small Effort, Massive Return You don‘t have to finance a new public park or run for local office to practice civic kindness. The trick is in the “micro-acts” small, bordering-on-automatic actions we take every day that say, “I hear you, we‘re on the same team. Here is a quick look at how common micro-acts of civic sense shift your internal state: The Civic Act The Mental Shift Returning a stray shopping cart Reinforces order, a personal feeling of control, and responsibility, which mitigates chaotic feelings. - Allow others to merge into traffic- Turns off the competitive fight-or-flight reaction, replacing agitation with sluggishness and serenity. May I greet my neighbor sanitation worker? Separates you from feelings of loneliness and sets you grounded within your life context the block and community in which you live. Holding the elevator door Refocuses the intellect to the present moment instead of dwelling on future worries. Breaking the Modern Loneliness Epidemic We are living in an age of incredible interconnectedness, and yet we have never been more lonely. We slip through our cities and suburbs like ghosts, fixated on our screens, ignoring the human beings who stand between us and our destinations. Loneliness begets anxiety, and a messed-up outlook on life. Civic charity will be the best medicine to treat this alienation. Every time you employ your civic consciousness say, informing someone they forgot to zip up their backpack, or pulling hard on your dog on the sidewalk so that a passing stroller-drivvle doesn‘t bowl you over you crack the glass wall of isolation. You realize that you are, actually, a member of a group. These micro-interactions are social vitamin supplements. They show that the world is not an arid wasteland of unfriendly people, but a shared place of inhabitants. How to Build Your “Civic Kindness” Routine Civic sense is the muscle that needs to be flexed everyday, as any other habit. If you want to keep uplifting the mood day after day, try infusing these three two expressions into your life: 1. Practice Active Looking We cannot be compassionate if we are oblivious to our environment. Take a moment to take your eyes away from your phone while walking down the street. Observe your surroundings. Is there an abandoned bottle of plastic next to a bin? Place it inside. Does anybody appear confused? Give directions. 2. Choose Patience Over Speed We live in a culture where speed is king. But speed is the foe of civic good judgment. The next time you drive or shop, let someone else have the privilege of luck for a change. The ten seconds you spend 4 seconds more being kind will be repaid twofold in the rush of serotonin you‘ll feel as grace and not id instinct. 3. Leave Spaces Better Than You Found Them Have fun with it. Be dedicated to straightening out the gym bench after your workout, having your library book neatly shelved, and dumping your tray in the trash at the food court. Respect all public places the way you respect your own living room. Pride in ownership of your community can really help. The Beautiful Truth Real civic sense is not martyrdom nor can it be a showoff on Twitter. It is about silently and radically accepting our common human identity. The act of giving and contributing to the health and wellbeing of your world creates an exponential healthy return on that gift. You walk a little heavier, breathe a little freer, and the world feels a little safer. You take care of your community you end up taking care of yourself. So, when you walk out the door today, go ahead and ask yourself: what is one small kindness I can leave here for someone? Your spirit will thank you.

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